"The power to do good is also the power to do harm." -Milton Friedman

Well, hello there. Welcome back, my little hopeful. Kneel down as we explore power dynamics today. . . As we learned last time, BDSM is an abbreviation for (B/D) bondage, discipline, (D/s) dominance and submission, and (S/M) sadomasochism. This means that a tremendous portion of BDSM practices revolve about power dynamics. Who has it? Who gives it up? For how long? Now, be honest: do the majority of you believe the Dominant has all the power? That the Dominant controls the submissive and everything they do? Or perhaps that the submissive holds all the power because they get to set the limits prior to domination? Not necessarily. To me, the Dominant and the submissive are “equal” in power. I say this because power exchange is a dance. It can shift from moment to moment and the equality is in the duality of dance. Anyone can give and revoke consent at anytime. Both roles are needed in a dynamic and one is not more powerful than another. Remember, enthusiastic consent is not just for one-time session, but should remain a constant for every dynamic and relationship! A power dynamic is a mutual exchange with limits for both parties, even if ultimately and preferably, the Dominant is granted the majority of the power. I mean, if the submissive has the power in the dynamic, that submissive likely isn’t getting what they need, are they? As an Alpha Femme Domme, what I want most is power. Consensually, negotiated power. I feel best when I am in control, but I also feel best when I know that my submissives are receiving what they need in return. It is a mutually beneficial exchange for both parties. What are your thoughts? Comment below and let me know! Or, if you are so inclined, join me and others in The Sanctuary, my educational Discord server. The Sanctuary is a safe and active online community where we discuss various aspects of BDSM, kink, and fetish. I hope to see you all there. Sincerely, Siren

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